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I will share the possible ways to break free from an abusive household and how to find opportunities to get out as fast as possible.
The truth is real, and it hurts that many organizations that claim to help are there only for bringing in more income. There are many stories of people coming for help and failing to receive it, and I want more stories in my inbox so I can share them publicly and talk about these experiences. Make sure that you include your name you want to display, the date or period of time it happened, the place, and exactly what happened.
I have been looking for help myself when I was abused by family.
Not all of us are blessed with gifts from God, receiving helpful and loving families. Some of us receive it as a challenge to be stronger in faith and soul.
So, there is no need to worry about it. It will surely make you stronger, and you particularly do not need to share your story with institutions that claim to help, because you won't receive help ever in your life from them.
I will actually share what is happening in someone's life and the only way to break free from abuse, especially as a woman, because someone who got free from being abused is 10 times smarter than any doctor with a diploma in psychology.
We all know that for some people, emotional abuse can be deadly, as can physical abuse, and all abuses are terrible. But even worse is when you get physically abused and cannot emotionally.
I also will share a story from my personal life to make you understand that you aren't alone, and sadly, so many people choose death over living in these situations.
The death isn't the only way to escape it, and it isn't a way that you deserve.
Everyone deserves happiness and peace, and to live happy and free.
So, I will share possible ways to make it happen.
10 Actual Ways to Break Free from Abuse
1st. Acting to the Abusers.
Whether it is physical abuse or emotional abuse, what an abuser wants from you is a certain reaction: to make you feel sad, depressed, and miserable.
You have to accept that you are not miserable in others' eyes, and there also will be people in life besides your abusers who would act evil towards you; it is the same for everyone.
You break free from the abuse when you know how to treat yourself correctly.
First, avoid communicating with abusers and interacting with them.
If they come after you and do not leave you alone, do not respond to them. Instead, write to a legal department or the police.
If the police refuse to help, then please submit a claim to the court, including police work ignorance and the workers' names, to deal with them, too, as they should go by the legal acts.
There is no help line needed.
Simply understand your worth and find illegal activity in each situation, because the main law says that everyone should be treated with respect and equally, and no one can attack you without a certain reason.
If you don't have proof of abuse, I also recommend you to gather proof first. It might be hard to do, but try to provoke the abuse situation and make sure that cameras are set up.
Abusers often react to certain situations that are normal—for example, when you talk or say your opinion or do a certain thing that is normal by society's norms—because they want you to be oppressed. There isn't a certain reason why; it is just that they follow what they came from, or it also can be possession.
2nd. Move Out ASAP.
Your all 24/7 time should be focused on one thought: Move out from your house or the place where you are getting abused (for example, school).
You don't need a parent's permission to do it; you simply can just refuse to go, because everyone has the right to do so, and you can't be threatened about it as a young adult.
If your parents want you to be suffering from the abuse, then they are abusive themselves.
You shouldn't stay in an environment that you feel bad in, because it can impact your further life and health negatively, just like it impacted mine. I started to have serious health issues, and later you can even fall into depression.
3rd. Start Charity if There is No Way Out.
You are your boss, and even if abuse makes you broken now, you need to start somewhere.
Nowadays, people won't help charity even though many claim they do. There isn't a significant impact from it, and many people who actually suffer from abuse do not want to show their face and the damage done to them publicly.
The best way to start charity is just to find a platform where you can talk about your story and life experiences, such as Medium, and become a writer to inspire others with your critical life story.
The best point as a writer is that you don't need to represent all your life physically; you can only share experiences and insights that have happened to you.
Remember, people who seek physical proof aren't the ones wanting to help; they are the ones wanting to talk.
Be sure you add a donate button setting on and link PayPal or other donation software.
Also, you can sell online services, but it takes more time to create something you can sell. Your main point is to generate a monthly living, not to get rich, so you can move out and STOP suffering.
4th. There is No Way You Can Help Abusers to Stop Abuse.
You are weak yourself. You can't help someone who considers something they do or did for years normal and is using it as the only way of joy and to gain energy and worth from it.
You have to find help yourself. Trying to change them will only get you more stressed, broken, and sad.
You need to fix yourself, and when you fix yourself, your voice will make more impact. Find friends who believe in you first.
Please focus on yourself, not fixing the abusers in the first place.
5th. Do Not Take Anything from the Abusers if You Can.
From physical and emotional experience with abusers, if you take something from the abusers, especially as a gift, they will use it against you. They can simply even say that you stole it or just manipulated them to have the item, which can get you in trouble.
The best way is to never take anything from people with an abusive mindset, and also people that you don't know well, until you know how to protect yourself legally and physically.
6th. Do Not Share Any Information of Yourself and Your Plans with the Abusers.
People with an abusive mindset often ask a lot of questions, and they refuse to answer any.
Once you start answering these questions, they get what they want, and you move yourself closer to the destruction of your life.
But even if you are destroyed already, remember, there is always a way outside of the situation.
I was completely destroyed, too, and had sadness for a long time, but I was able to win against the abusers with my voice and by fighting against it and trying to help people who were or are in equal situations.
God doesn't put you through a certain situation without reason; He wants you to talk about it and share it as a motivation in this world later.
Your task is to break free from the abuse, and sharing information with the abusers will not help you in any way. Even simple things, like your weekend plans and sharing them, can impact your life negatively, or where you are going.
Abusers are just humans, and the only thing that keeps them away from being powerful is the inability to read your mind, so make sure you always act like you don't know or simply mislead them.
7th. Do Not Let Abusers to Touch You.
It is the hardest task, but to do so, you need to know the worth of your body.
You probably have taken care of yourself and also invested a lot of money, and whatever type of abuse it is, remember all the good things you bought yourself and did to be better and more worthy in this world.
If nothing makes you feel worthy, you can also remind yourself how much close people to you have spent to make you more worthy than the abuser currently tries to tell you that you are.
Do not let anyone define your worth, because no one knows your story. Make sure to share it.
8th. Do Not Expect Everyone to Help You.
If you don't receive help from certain people, it's because they certainly lack the empathy and ability to understand people and their situation from their viewpoint, simply because they lack the experience in life.
Do NOT let anyone harm you from the inside, and even if they say some things like, "It is normal," or "It should be this way," or "I don't see any abuse there," or just act like they are listening but they aren't, you have the right to leave. If it is a legal authority, report them to a higher authority, until you receive help. Remember, life is a war, not a fairytale, and you want to fight also against evil and fight for fairness in this world.
9th. Do Not Share Your Tools with Abusers.
Same as taking things from the abusers, do not share anything physical with them, such as your clothes or personal stuff.
Most abusers, no matter if it's psychological or physical, have a bad spiritual energy, and I can say it as a person who has practiced it.
They are full of hate, demonic possession, and envy.
Most of them will take your tools and they will not return them or spiritually use them, especially metallic tools, to forward negative energy to your body, which can also be done through voice.
So, do not ever take anything from the abusers, even if you are required to by someone else who claims to be a higher authority.
Simply just go and report them to one authority higher and keep doing it until you get a right response.
10th. Never Spend Time in the Abusive Environment.
Whatever place it is, and if you can't yet move out because you haven't received financial help from anyone, or your business or work doesn't work out, or maybe you seek a job but can't find it, spend most of the time outside of home.
I recommend quiet places where you can relax and think, such as libraries and silent cafes where you know people are respectful and quiet.
The best places are private offices if they can be accessed for free, but if the financial problem is the main part, then just choose a library.
11th. Never Give Up on Trying.
If you keep trying, you will win.
For me, it took a whole 5 months to fully leave my abusive household and earn my first income online so I could pay for rent.
My situation was so bad, and I was yelled at all day. Things sometimes got swung at me. I was threatened with police for things like opening a window in the house or putting certain things, like butter, in the fridge, or putting tools on the wrong shelves.
I got threatened because the abusers would do anything; they would lie and try to act innocent to the police to cause me problems.
I had to move out ASAP because my life was in danger, and so is yours.
You can't just sit there and hope for things to fix on their own, because many people have suffered, obviously some less and worse, but remember, whatever you are going through, moving out is the first step. Whatever it takes, just make sure that you don't fall onto another abuser while searching for help, because the energy you present to people is the energy abusers like.
While you feel like you are just a normal person, others might see you as shy, distant, or a bit afraid of certain things, and people who have abused others can feel it, so be careful. The only thing you need now is money to live alone and pay your rent, and everyone who refuses you that on a contract basis is canceled, because no one deserves to be abused, and abuse is the first cause people should help others for.
I hope this blog post will help you and motivate you, and I also plan to start my charity. All the business links I own will be in the footer if you want to support me after breaking free from the abusive household.
Conclusion :
Please if You can't break free from abuse, write Me an email and I might be able to help You with something looking at the financial or physical things or even contact information or legal information I can share.
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